When does a woman become vulnerable? A woman's main quality lies in her ability to easily empathize with the people around her. This simply means that women are generally more sensitive than men, as they are more easily affected by the energies they absorb from their surroundings. However, women have the gift of being extremely attentive and perceptive when it comes to what’s happening around them. While men usually focus on one thing at a time to be more efficient, women have the ability to observe much more at once and quickly form a big-picture perspective. In other words, women are often more curious than men — but this doesn’t necessarily mean they’re more efficient. Very often, women tend to miss the tree for the forest. And this is where their vulnerability comes in. This vulnerability stems from the fact that a woman usually finds it hard to focus on just one detail — and often, one small detail makes all the difference. Even so, we must admit this is precisely why there's chemistry between men and women — not just on a physiological level. What do you think?
Chemistry vs Love? No, They’re Not The Same
Chemistry = When Sparks Fly! If you hear yourself saying to your friends: ‘We have great chemistry, do not pass go. Instead stop, look and listen. In the last few weeks I have had several conversations with some of my clients (who are single women over 40) about the importance of chemistry with men you meet. If I were to ask you on a scale of 1 to 10, (10 being high) how you would rank chemistry as being important when meeting and dating a guy, what would you say? If you’re like most women you would probably rank it pretty high on the scale. So, what I’m about to tell you may be shocking to some and not acceptable to others. But please keep reading to see if you may want to change your perspective on chemistry.
Chemistry vs Love?
Here is the reality, chemistry is over rated big time. In fact chemistry gets in the way of meeting Mr. Right and can put you on the track to meeting the ‘wrong men’. So Suzy, are you trying to tell me that if a guy is not attractive to me I should not let that stand in the way of dating him? Is that the question that just popped in your mind? My answer is Yes and No. If you are repulsed by a man because he’s obese or has rotten teeth or poor grooming habits and smells or whatever, that’s obviously a No answer, that will not work. However, if you meet a man who is physically acceptable (meaning not repulsive) who treats you with respect, and appears to have values that you respect…and from first blush seems like a nice guy but you don’t feel much chemistry… than the answer is Yes.
Don’t let the lack of chemistry stop you from getting to know this man. Here’s the thing that you must understand. Chemistry is not about love. Chemistry loses its ‘punch’ (so to speak) at some point in any relationship and now you’re left with the reality of who this man is without the chemistry. Most often he’s not the man that is best suited to you; In fact usually he’s the wrong man for you. When you get to know a man first as a friend and you begin to value him as a trustworthy guy who has your back and is a support system to you, it’s at that point you have the beginnings of a ‘real love’ relationship. True authentic love is based on something way better than what you know as chemistry. In the case of true love the attraction factor is a soul to soul connection. This trumps chemistry hands down. It means you both enter into the relationship without needing something from each other to complete you in some way.
You leave your old baggage at the door and show up as a woman who most importantly has self love… which allows you to fully engage in a healthy, loving relationship. That is when you realize you are with your soul mate. True love is about being perfectly okay with your partner’s individuality even when you disagree about something. In a mature relationship you learn to negotiate with each other when you need to come to a mutual decision. You accept him for exactly who he is and he accepts you in the same way. When you are with the man best suited to you, there is total trust that this man has your best interest at heart. It’s a deep love that has the capacity to go through the hard times and in fact it’s those difficult times that actually deepen the relationship. And when you’re with your true love, the good times are magical! You feel more alive and vibrant than you have ever even imagined for yourself. YES, men like this do exist…you just need to learn how and where to find them. To discover the secret to meeting relationship minded men check out Women Dating After 40.
Here’s where the rubber hits the road
If you base a relationship on how much chemistry exists between you and him, than you will be blinded as to the real factors that you must have for a successful relationship. The glue that holds a soulmate based relationship together is the body, mind and soul connection that you have with your partner. That’s the chemistry (so to speak) of authentic love, versus love based on the infatuation that is the result of a chemistry based relationship. So now you know, not only is chemistry over rated, but it is not a good predictor of he’s ‘The One.’ As a woman dating over 40 who is serious about finding your soul mate, remember real love is not an emotion like chemistry, it’s much deeper than that.
Wooly Bear Festival End
She didn't say a word, just walked away, and yep you guessed it about an hour later her and her friend had it on a leash walking down the side walk. Idiots! That puppy couldn't have been more then 6 weeks old. Well at least I didn't have anyone looking for a dog to breed with. I did have a few people tell me that the sum between $100 and $200 was way too much money for a dog. My response to both of those people was "Do you know how much it is to get a dog fixed?" they both said yes. I said do you really think $100 is too much for a dog? They both started at me blankly. Oh and this was so funny. We have this super nice dog in the rescue right now named Bo. He is big but so nice. I was taking him out of the crate and he was just walking out like a normal dog. This young girl scream, threw her hands out to the side of her to block her friends and said that is a wild one! I looked straight at her and I said "he is? why do you say that?" "He is going to get us!" She said loudly. I said "No he isn't." Her mom pulled her arms down and I walked away so not exactly sure what all transpired after that. So weird. For the parade all the dogs were dressed in costumes. It seemed everyone like that idea and it got a lot of people in the crowds attention. We will definitely do that again next year.
More on The Wooly Bear Festival
I even had one kid come into the tent and start grab stuff off the table. Are you kidding me! I grabbed his little arm and walked him out of the tent. Of course the entire time him mom was screaming "Travis come here. Don't go in there. What are you doing Come here" Clearly the kid doesn't listen and or isn't made to listen. Sure scared him when I grabbed his arm and marched him out of the tent. Then I had a girl, probably 12 years old walk over to me and say "Where are the Boy Scouts" I said "I have no idea" her response "Oh come on dude. Your kidding me." stomp her foot and get all mad. I gave her the nastiest look and said "why should I know where they are?" She turned around mumbling something all mad. I looked at my friend in the tent with me and I said did that really just happen? Then this teenage girl came up to the tent. She had this little tiny puppy. I told her to be careful b/c a puppy that little can get sick and die. I told her until after it has all his vaccinations it won't be immune to picking up illness from other dogs. She looked at me like fu. I told her that our dogs are shelter dogs and just because a dog is healthy doesn't mean it isn't carrying something that will make a puppy sick.
Wooly Bear Festival
Sunday 9'th october was the Wooly Bear Festival. It was a huge success. We had a lot of amazing volunteers helping and walking in the parade. Man am I lucky to have such awesome people who have adopted from me and who volunteer. And some are both. A lot of friends and people I know from different times in my life stopped by to say hi! It was nice to see people coming by, really feels like I am supported in my efforts. We all know this year has been one crappy year for me when it comes to people treating me like shit. Oh the stuff I don't even blog about would blow your mind. I try to keep the blogging dog related only. But I must say for every person who has treated me like crap there are 2 more awesome adopters or volunteers or friends who sure help me get through the crap! I will say though, the general public is weird. I had a few strange experiences while at the festival. Well first of all I had a tent set up with tables in the front and dog pens on either side. Clearly the tent was for those manning the tent to be able to stand under and sell items that were on the table. Had the sides blocked pretty well with the dog pens but you better believe every little kid and annoying adult would find one little opening and walk right through the middle of our tent.
Laughter of Resistance
Think about this, the people the United States government fears the most are not terrorists, they fear the peace activists. The strange truth here is the United States government supports terrorism, as fear supports this administration. My position is very clear on this matter, first the administration is a Terrorist based organization that uses fear, torture and terror as means to maintain their vision of America. Secondly, I don't believe in resistance nor do I promote fighting. I advocate instead that each person needs to be themselves one hundred percent. If the action of being yourself goes against society, then so be it. You are not society, society is dictated by your actions. Be free, by not living in fear of being yourself. So lets get back to that original email. To protect the identity of my new friend I will call her Joe. Tricky, tricky, is Joe a he or she? You will never know now, I feel like I am in a spy novel now. I responded to Joe in a one page email which I will summarize here, It's not that western life is bad. It's just that corporations and a greedy wealthy few have subverted freedom to mean totalitarian economic policy. Eventually this will change. All dictators fall, All. If you want to resist these problems. Then learn how to laugh about how silly western society is. Laughter is the most powerful from of resistance. Laughter is the key as strange as this may sound.
Google Solution
Perhaps there is a Google god after all. I never use forums. I always get tangled up in them, but given I was desperate, and a reader sent me the link to Google's help forum, I tried. Talk about quick. Instantly I received a quick reply. Isabelle from Weight Shapes has posted an answer to the question "Blogger sometimes freezes and will not allow readers to comment". We've raised this with Google Engineering. Until it is fixed I would suggest settings your comments to either Full-Screen or Pop-Up rather than Embed. The problem does not happen with Google Chrome, so you should switch to using Google Chrome in the meantime. Hopefully Google will announce when the issues are fixed. I'm impressed. I immediately went to settings and changed the comments to pop-up and was able to read your comments. Now about Google Chrome, what is that? Something new for me to learn I suppose. I'm probably the only one in the world not using it. I try to stay on top of all this digital stuff but sometimes you just wear out and need a break. This is what happens when you take a break.
IlluxCon Memories
The educational opportunities abound. The funny thing is that often learn the most when I'm on the panel myself! This year, I spent most of the Live Art Critic in stunned silence as I watched the experts offer up brilliant critiques, technique advice, and some quick paint-overs to make a point. I wish we could have continued for hours. Next time I'll bring a laser pointer so I can talk about composition more, without the "software mastery" envy I had watching folks like Dan Dos Santos, Robh Ruppel, and Patrick Jones as they flew through photoshop. It was also a blast listening to Mark Nelson describe his concepting experiences and walk through his process in the "creature design by committee". I do a lot of concepting, but I learned a ton by being part of his class. There were a tone of other workshops that I would have loved to attend, but I was so busy I had to skip some of the ones I was aching to attend. I need more hours in the day!
Matthew Starbuck
The rendering on this is really strong. It took me a minute to realize that the left front leg was down and the left rear leg was back... the perspective puts that grounded front leg right in line with the right back leg / wing, so it felt very much like the two were intended to be bilaterally symmetrical rear legs. The head reads well, though I’m back and forth on the neck. The surface texture reads beautifully (as it does throughout the piece), but the structure reads like a puffy coat or wingback chair with deep upholstery. It almost feels inflated. If you can reign that puffiness in I think it’ll read better.
Rent-a-car Benefits
Renting a car may represent a very high benefit to the individuals who are bound to travel a lot from one country to another and to also relocate a lot inside such countries. You can reach your destination by train or by plane as to not exhaust yourself driving and to not lose much time, and then, renting a car is the perfect answer to a comfortable and well-timed relocation, anywhere you need it. Renting a car is convenient not just in the case of business travels but also in other cases such as: in vacation, when you can reach your destination by plane, which is very cost-effective in terms of time, and there, you can rent a car to take a ride and acquaint yourself with the surroundings; if you have many rides to take in your own town or outside it and your personal car is in service or you have sold it and it takes a while to buy another.
For this precise reason, the rent-a-car companies have developed, they adjust to any kind of request and they are available to anyone, with any model of car and for any period, independently if it is about a few days or a few weeks. The purpose of a rent-a-car companie is to increase the comfort and to fast satisfy the needs of all prospects, from the most pretentious to the simplest. In any of these cases, a rent-a-car company may be helpful, by providing you a solution at hand, convenient and advantageous. To the very varied offer of models of cars of the rent-a-car centers, a generous offer regarding the car facilities is also added, in such way that you are able to choose from the simplest car to a car with additional facilities so that you feel comfortable and be able to meet your duties, whatever these are.
To Remember is an Act of Choice
To remember is an act of choice... and not merely an experience. Xan at Corrente chooses to remember the “independence day of our second american revolution”, and the debt all of us owe to those of us who paid the highest price possible for liberty, as well as the debt all of us owe to those of us that carry the conscience and memory of this nation. Today I want to remember my ancestor who fought many battles for the union army, and was imprisoned at andersonville and lived to tell the tale. Besides the fact that the only reason I am here today (along with many others of his descendants) is because the all-father did not call him to Valhalla from the battlefield, I feel that in many ways I owe him my understanding of freedom, and what it means to sacrifice everything for the sake of future generations. What sort of country would this be if the union had fragmented and slavery still practiced in the south? Some say that it would have ended on its own eventually - but how many would have had to suffer and die in chains?
Some say that the opportunistic north wanted to keep slavery for themselves and not for the south - that it was a war of economic competition. I don’t think that the historical record bears this out particularly, but I fear that for some it is an argument that is attractive in that it bestows upon them the righteousness of victimhood that is undeserved. Some that were there state that abolition was merely the strongest political argument for war, but from Lincoln’s point of view it was to preserve the union, and defend the constitution that the north waged war upon the south. I find this argument to be somewhat more supported by the historical record, but as I’m only an amateur at history I’d have to get back to you on that. I feel that what my ancestor would want me to think about and remember on this day is that the union as it stands, and the constitution which we are sworn to defend, is something that many men died to preserve, and so we oughtn’t to let it be bandied about lightly by vain and servile men without honor, who deem it “just a goddamned piece of paper“.
Some say that the opportunistic north wanted to keep slavery for themselves and not for the south - that it was a war of economic competition. I don’t think that the historical record bears this out particularly, but I fear that for some it is an argument that is attractive in that it bestows upon them the righteousness of victimhood that is undeserved. Some that were there state that abolition was merely the strongest political argument for war, but from Lincoln’s point of view it was to preserve the union, and defend the constitution that the north waged war upon the south. I find this argument to be somewhat more supported by the historical record, but as I’m only an amateur at history I’d have to get back to you on that. I feel that what my ancestor would want me to think about and remember on this day is that the union as it stands, and the constitution which we are sworn to defend, is something that many men died to preserve, and so we oughtn’t to let it be bandied about lightly by vain and servile men without honor, who deem it “just a goddamned piece of paper“.
When Sword Swallowing Does Not Impress
To fill a box somewhere in the universe / multi-verse. Don't worry about the horse being blind, just load the wagon. Involuntary, consistent, and memorable. Branded a Graphemeie because she mentioned the letter A, from the English alphabet, is likely to be red. She had been unaware this experience was unusual until she realized other people did not have them. Singled out, she felt, for the wrong reason, she scoffed it as associative learning from playing with colored refrigerator magnets. The human condition is such this. Saying what we are trying to mean and answering what we don't want anyone to hear. And all the while hoping we won’t carry any regrets and others will read between the lines. It does become so much easier to run when we believe something is chasing us. Woven memories over time, graceful acceptance of reality. From: The paper doll stories: life profiles & confessions. Note: Cabinet of Couriosities show will be coming down in two weeks. If you are in Denver Co. come by the show, check out the Museum of Outdoor Arts and introduce yourself to Lonnie Hanzon. There is a 'punch' on the main blog.
Cry and Let Slip the Dogs of War - Part 2
The owner, puzzled at first, then visibly frightened, has no answer. He does not know whether the hard drive inside the laptop is yours or not. You are puzzled. Why switch out the hard drives when he could just as easy make a disc image of your hard drive and transfer the data that way? But of course, what is easy and sensible is not always most profitable for him. He begs you to give him some time to work out what has happened to your data, but, he says, he is confident that whatever the status of your hard drive, he should be able to restore everything to the way it was. Skeptical, you leave the store. Your wife has already decided that you are screwed, but you are attempting to remain dispassionate. Apparently, the laptop has experienced some travel over the weekend. its one shortcoming in matching up to your old system is an inferior model optical drive. It was sent to the facility on the other side of town to have one installed.
Strangely, some unnamed employee (who, we are assured, has been summarily fired) has taken it upon himself to format the hard drive, assuming perhaps that this is a recycle job, although there are no such instructions on the work order. Your precious memories... your irreplaceable documents, business contacts, music collected over four years... all of it gone. And why? Because you were stupid enough to take a computer repair service at its word that it would respect your data, what would seem to be the absolute bottom line expectation of any repair service from here to karachi, that in simply repairing your monitor they not reformat your hard drive. Or that they would keep a backup in case of this sort of rare error. By the end of the work day, meaning today, if i do not have satisfaction, I will publish the name of this store here and everywhere else possible. I will additionally take legal action. I will additionally construct a voodoo doll and commence needle insertion.
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