When does a woman become vulnerable? A woman's main quality lies in her ability to easily empathize with the people around her. This simply means that women are generally more sensitive than men, as they are more easily affected by the energies they absorb from their surroundings. However, women have the gift of being extremely attentive and perceptive when it comes to what’s happening around them. While men usually focus on one thing at a time to be more efficient, women have the ability to observe much more at once and quickly form a big-picture perspective. In other words, women are often more curious than men — but this doesn’t necessarily mean they’re more efficient. Very often, women tend to miss the tree for the forest. And this is where their vulnerability comes in. This vulnerability stems from the fact that a woman usually finds it hard to focus on just one detail — and often, one small detail makes all the difference. Even so, we must admit this is precisely why there's chemistry between men and women — not just on a physiological level. What do you think?
Chemistry vs Love? No, They’re Not The Same
Chemistry = When Sparks Fly! If you hear yourself saying to your friends: ‘We have great chemistry, do not pass go. Instead stop, look and listen. In the last few weeks I have had several conversations with some of my clients (who are single women over 40) about the importance of chemistry with men you meet. If I were to ask you on a scale of 1 to 10, (10 being high) how you would rank chemistry as being important when meeting and dating a guy, what would you say? If you’re like most women you would probably rank it pretty high on the scale. So, what I’m about to tell you may be shocking to some and not acceptable to others. But please keep reading to see if you may want to change your perspective on chemistry.
Don’t let the lack of chemistry stop you from getting to know this man. Here’s the thing that you must understand. Chemistry is not about love. Chemistry loses its ‘punch’ (so to speak) at some point in any relationship and now you’re left with the reality of who this man is without the chemistry. Most often he’s not the man that is best suited to you; In fact usually he’s the wrong man for you. When you get to know a man first as a friend and you begin to value him as a trustworthy guy who has your back and is a support system to you, it’s at that point you have the beginnings of a ‘real love’ relationship. True authentic love is based on something way better than what you know as chemistry. In the case of true love the attraction factor is a soul to soul connection. This trumps chemistry hands down. It means you both enter into the relationship without needing something from each other to complete you in some way.
You leave your old baggage at the door and show up as a woman who most importantly has self love… which allows you to fully engage in a healthy, loving relationship. That is when you realize you are with your soul mate. True love is about being perfectly okay with your partner’s individuality even when you disagree about something. In a mature relationship you learn to negotiate with each other when you need to come to a mutual decision. You accept him for exactly who he is and he accepts you in the same way. When you are with the man best suited to you, there is total trust that this man has your best interest at heart. It’s a deep love that has the capacity to go through the hard times and in fact it’s those difficult times that actually deepen the relationship. And when you’re with your true love, the good times are magical! You feel more alive and vibrant than you have ever even imagined for yourself. YES, men like this do exist…you just need to learn how and where to find them. To discover the secret to meeting relationship minded men check out Women Dating After 40.
